Essential online dating guide
Be prepared and navigate it as best as you can.~Remember that most of the “bad” behavior from others has to do with you! Bonnie was off the dating market from 1998 (when she met her now ex-husband) till early 2014.
Most likely they have their own baggage, their own issues, their own insecurities — and those things have zero to do with you.~Have a sounding board, whether it’s a therapist, trusted friend, or someone else going through the dating process.~If you find yourself getting bitter or angry…if you can’t find your sense of humor or a life lesson in your dating adventures…if you are finding your self confidence taking a hit, then take a break, heal up a bit, and rejoin when you feel more like yourself. She has been online dating on-and-off for over 4 years.
For your first photo, I recommend a 1/2 body CLEAR photo of you solo without sunglasses, baseball caps, or fish.
By all means, get more creative with the remaining photos, but be sure to always include: at least one smiling photo (yep, we are checking out your teeth — you’d be surprised what’s out there), one full body shot, one photo without sunglasses on, one photo without a cap, and one more serious photo. If your photos are blurry, not current, contain photos of other women, and/or have children in every picture, I’m almost certainly going to swipe left. A lot of guys make this mistake, please don’t be one of them.
No problem in messaging/texting/talking to people, but you should come clean fairly soon so that you don’t waste their time.
This means: (1) That Bonnie is a failure at dating AND (2) She’s accumulated a lot of experiences and knowledge about the dating landscape for middle-aged chicks in Austin.
Keeping up with the latest dating trends can be exhausting, but it’s essential for your love life that you know what everyone is doing when it comes to the dating game.
Do not make a snarky comment about it and don’t add 2 inches, just include it in your info matter-of-factly. So, yes, most of you will need to lower your expectations even more.
Having said that, if you are decent looking, reasonably in shape or funny or intelligent or charming (or some combination), financially stable, and not trying to date super hot 25 year olds, you should be able to find some awesome chicks.